Thursday, February 19th, 2004 01:29 am
So apparently there's much a-buzz about a certain It in Austin, TX these past few days. (as pointed out by [livejournal.com profile] notapipe) Long story short?

Wife of Republican governor (of TX) supposedly leaving him soon.

Supposed Reason: "...his extramarital excursions of the male variety." (quoted from here)

Yes, you've read that right. (There's much relevant linkage here, here, and here.)

The other guy, supposedly?

Apparently it's the Secretary of State.

::twitch:: dudeonastick I don't think I can make this up if I tried.

oh. aheh. ::hides the polislash:: ahem. you know what I mean...

And it's not even the fact that the intimation of a relationship makes me cackle with glee of a very [livejournal.com profile] current_affairs and LexLuthorInOffice sort of way. It's not even the fact that this is hypocrisy right in the face of it all and etc. etc.

'Cause right now I'm kinda torn between the "don't bash the gay!" with the "you spineless, powergrubbing asswipe." ('cause Republican Gov. from Texas who signed certain 'marriage' related bills? yes.)

I kinda just pity him, if it's true, because the dude signed the TX defense of marriage act and there's pretty much near no place he can go to get support now. The right-wingers hate his guts, the liberals hate his guts, and everyone else is screaming "hypocrite!" The poor schmuck. Kinda makes you want to tar and feather him, eh?

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And a semi-related touch on the topic of [livejournal.com profile] wayfairer's rant on the slasher who was against gay marriage...

::twitchy::

okay, I'm just kinda gonna put my neck out there an mention that even though the stance seems awful strange, perhaps it's not *entirely* off-the-wall?

I mean, one could read non-con, and not support it right?

*Granted*, rape hurts other people, whereas the argument goes that homosexuality involves two concenting adults and thus hurts no one.

However, the view *exists* that gay marriage will hurt other people, too, and no matter how illogical that view may seem, it is held and believed in and I'm not sure a rant will entirely *work* (although the prescence of a rant makes *me* feel better).

An example perhaps:

Many of the asians in my aquaintance are familiar with the practice of assigning kids problem sets of math and grammar as soon as it the concepts could be pounded into their little heads; afterschool tutoring, for as much as could be handled, piano lessons down the throat and violin lessons if you can manage.

It's a method of developing mental discipline, you might say, and I've come across people who were *horrified* at the concept, who've said that it is *detrimental* to the kids (that it *hurts* the kids) and that they've never met a happy asian family.

And yet *I'm* still probably gonna do the same for my kids, because *I* believe that the early training has helped my mind develop and that *I* believe that it does no harm.

::shrugs:: Now, I know the example may not be the best, and the parallels are weak but. My point is, it's all subjective, no?

And, yes perhaps it's true that [livejournal.com profile] guardian_writer was out of line in stating her opinion, I haven't had a chance to read her exact words, and I'm not quite sure how much she was aware that her words were a direct slap in the face to possibly a significant percentage of her friendslist, but I'm glad that she made her opinion known.

Stunned at the tactlessness and absurdity and hypocrisy of it, but glad nevertheless.

It's in the same way that I'm glad for [livejournal.com profile] wayfairer's rant, even though I kinda feel that the rant might not entirely get through, on an argumentative basis, because of how automatically defensive the person to whom it is addressed might get. As a stump speech, it is marvelous, it is wonderful for rallying the troops and making one feel justified and happy on our moral high ground.

As a persuasive argument however, it...might not get heard, if y'know what I mean. I kinda feel that it might fall short of it's goal of persuasion, since no ground was given, no leeway, no mercy.

I'm not sure which Book of War (Sun Tsu or Machiavelli or ?) it is where it state to never corner an enemy; do so and they'll have no retreat. Do so and they'll have nothing to lose, and can you say flame war? yes.

::wry smile:: In any case, voila! Welcome to the rammifications of free speech!

'Cause really?

Free speech means that I have a responsibility to be offended, sometimes on a daily basis, and not to 'strike' back but rather to carefully 'engage'.

Free speech (in it's plural form, in society, in context) not only means to be able to rant at will in one's own corner of the 'net or the world or whereever one might be, but to be challenged in the speaking.

And in some way...In some way it's better, ne?, to be challenged in the speaking. It's veritable proof that you (as a person, as an entity, as an experience, as a group of thoughts, as a bunch of ideas) are not only not alone, but that you are unique.

Or at least that's how I view it.

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In sight of the previous rant on free speech, may I extend hugs to [livejournal.com profile] calichan, [livejournal.com profile] ladyjaida, [livejournal.com profile] fabu, [livejournal.com profile] stephdray, [livejournal.com profile] carmarthen, [livejournal.com profile] marquesate, [livejournal.com profile] lasergirl69, [livejournal.com profile] cawti, [livejournal.com profile] franzeska, [livejournal.com profile] d_r_o_n_e, and every which one of you that've ever willingly [or not? ::wink::] discussed a topic on which we've disagreed. I'm a brat sometimes when I argue (and I try to watch that though I sometimes don't succeed) and please know that I always enjoy the different opinions and viewpoints presented because ya'll are so refreshingly diverse.

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...::blinkies:: y'know. I wonder how much my frustration/bratty-ness comes through in my writing.

...

::blush::

erm. aheh.

Let's just say that the 'delete' key? It's a blessing.

Then again, I'm firmly of the 'bite your tongue if you can't say it nicely' philosophy (in its "nice=precise=effective" definition). So.

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Along perhaps similar topics, an old censorship post by [livejournal.com profile] przed, and a post rejecting the use of the "semicolon" argument to impede conservative protestors by [livejournal.com profile] theferrett (pointed out by [livejournal.com profile] wayfairer).

The last in particular I like and find telling. My personal reactions occur something along the lines of "Well, it's about *time* that someone 'cheated' for civil rights!" and being vaguely guilty at that thought because you don't *stoop* to your opponent's level and THEN being appalled because, dude, that's so gryffindor and you can't get nowhere if you don't have at *least* as effective tactics as the opposition.

::sporfle:: welcome to my brain.
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 01:42 am (UTC)
*LOL* I really can't even remember where when and on what we disagreed, and you know why? I am utterly and absolutely and hyper-strongly opinionated. I am so opinionated that I LOVE for people to have other opinions and be equally opinionated, because isn't it fun???

My best friends have opposite opinions to me on most things and we sometimes burst out laughing because we cannot possibly agree, but we respect each other and we know we are opinionated.

I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate (can I add some more 'hates', please? ;-) people who always do a meak 'in my humble opnion' or 'may/might I please possibly say that I might possibly have this wee little totally unimportant opinion'.

(exagerrations? Moi? No.... :-)

Why? I mean you have an opinion, fine, GO ON! Say it out loud, be controversial if you want to be but stick to your bloody opinions and don't crawl/spit-lick or do the humble-act.

Stay true to yourself and what you believe in. Opinions are good, rants are good, and even serious pissed-offedness is good. Is all good, just as long as one doesn't humble and bow down. Pah!

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 03:21 am (UTC)
call me crazy, but i see a clear distinction between being gay/bisexual and advocating same-sex marriage. if you choose to ignore the aspect of personal freedom/freedom of choice and all that, the phenomenon of same-sex marriage can still be deemed "harmful" to society and economics and what have you. marriage, as a historical phenomenon, is a sacred union sanctioned by the church, in order to ensure the breeding, upbringing and financing of future citizens, so that they won't be a liability to the state.

allowing men to marry men, and women to marry women, is not within the church's best interest (but as church and state are now separate, that wouldn't really pose an issue), but neither within the state's. the only compelling REASON same-sex marriages should be allowed is the highly personal statement that "everyone should be allowed to love who they want", and as obvious as this may seem to most of us, it is not something that can be formulated and argued in legal terms (also, you ARE allowed to love whomever you want, and even live with whomever you want; it's just the technical term "marriage" and its traditional and financial advantages that are out of your reach).

there are no real advantages to the state in allowing same-sex marriages, other than perhaps a somewhat higher percentage of happy citizens, which honestly isn't that big a concern when you have money tipping the scale. it can be argued that a gay couple doesn't breed, thus negating the whole "point" of marriage as an institution.

and i'm not saying that these aren't outdated views from the angle of our newer society, or that i'm against same-sex marriage (in fact i am very much for), but as we push further and further towards individualism and liberalism, we have to keep in mind the aspects that make up society: what's best for you isn't always best for the group, and vice versa.

...also, isn't the question of same-sex marriage mainly (if not purely) a Christian debate? considering we have religious freedom in most western countries, it's kind of an interesting log to throw onto the fire.

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 05:10 am (UTC)
Ooh, thanks for the heads up on Rick Perry (Gov. of TX). I'm right here in Austin, so I'm going to tap all my sources for the latest dirt. (There's really nothing so satisfying as the exposure of a hypocrite.)

I'm still trying to clarify my thoughts on the anti-gay marriage slasher and I may post more about this on my journal, but the short answer, for me, has to do with objectification. There's an accusation that's levied at slashers that we're objectifying gay men and homosexual desire for our own sexual fulfillment. Generally, I think this is hogwash, but in the case of someone who believes homosexual *behavior* is wrong and yet reads, and more importantly *writes* slash, I feel it is somewhat accurate.

The original post has been deleted or friends locked, so I can't read the writer's exact words, but from what was quoted in someone else's journal, she seems to be saying that it's ok for her to be aroused by reading / writing about homosexuality, but not for homosexual individuals to enjoy their sexuality. It feels disrespectful to a whole community of people, in a way that chan or noncon doesn't. Perhaps this is because people don't generally publicly identify themselves as pedophiles or rapists. Perhaps it's also because fanfic generally handles chan and noncon in a fantastical way, which encourages the viewer to disassociate the depiction from reality.

I also can't remember when we disagreed, certainly I've never seen you act like "a brat"!
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 05:33 am (UTC)
I enjoy disagreeing with you, those are some of my best discussions.



(I'm sick too if it's any consolation. probably isn't, but... hehh.)
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 05:33 am (UTC)
It wasn't the 'gay marriage' statement that annoyed me in that original post; it was the statement about homosexuality being wrong in general.

But I definitely agree with you that the response post was probably too forceful. It was a rant, through and through, and I didn't agree with how it presented parts of its case.
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 06:32 am (UTC)
Oh, and the gayness in Texas.

*snerkling*

No wonder the White House Gnome is so defensive all the time.

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 05:34 am (UTC)
*laughs* This was a great post to wake up to. Politician smut and fandom wank... I just wish I'd a coffee. Hmm... Well, not much to say on the Gov. there, mostly I'm just sitting here with an evil smirk on my face. On the second matter, I think she had a right to say what she said, I just don't think it was very premeditated. She's probably feeling very confused about her beliefs, and hopefully this will bring her a step closer to figuring them out. Let's just hope that the response she got isn't going to make it a step in the wrong direction. :(

Hee! Hey, I respect anyone who can challange me in an argument. I have no time for people that back down. XD;; Particularly since sometimes I'm not right at all!
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 06:23 am (UTC)
I think my initial reaction to [livejournal.com profile] guardian_writer's statement would have been, "Hypocrite! Hypocrite!" Now that I've thought about it though, I suppose I can understand it. Apparently she likes how slash makes her feel, but she feels it's morally wrong. Well a lot of people feel the same way about adultery, and if they suddenly decide that they're not going to cheat on their spouses anymore, than good for them.

So really, I feel a bit sorry for her. I think I'd be rather miserable if I were ashamed of myself for writing slash, especially considering the amount of free time I've devoted to this particular hobby. I *don't* think there is anything morally wrong with gay marriage. Just the opposite. I think it is morally wrong to deny gay people the right to marry. I do hope that she either changes her beliefs or withdraws herself from the slash community. Because if she *doesn't* have some sort of conversion, she'll probably end up being a pariah in the community anyway.

Personally, I don't have a problem with anything she said. I don't agree with any of it, but I won't take issue with it. However, if I were on her friends list, I would probably defriend her, simply because I don't see the point of having someone on my friends list whose fundamental beliefs are diametrically opposed to mine.



And as to the political scandal -- *sporfle* That's fricking hilarious!!! The governor of Texas?!?!?
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 06:37 am (UTC)
Free speech means that I have a responsibility to be offended, sometimes on a daily basis, and not to 'strike' back but rather to carefully 'engage'.

And hugs back at ya. I'll walk away from a screaming match, but I'll happily engage in an civilized exploration of disimilar opinions. Luckily, most of the folks I 'talk' to on a regular basis are relatively civilized.

But I'm not sure that I agree with 'offended' in your statement above. I see offensive things on a daily basis and will recoil and avert my attention. I prefer the thought of being challenged, of having my normal pattern of life disrupted enough to force me to examine my preconceptions, my assumptions and my routine. Being offended doesn't trigger an introspective reaction; I'll turn away with a grimace. It's the difference between Mapplethrope and Larry Flynt, I think.

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 06:59 am (UTC)
The Item the first is hilariously funny in a what-a-tragic-way-to-destroy-your-marriage-DUDE! kind of mission-quest-thing. (okay, maybe I should have some tea before trying to comment. Incoherency before caffeine.)

The item the second: WHOOOO!! Touched a hot button here, for me:

Many of the asians in my aquaintance are familiar with the practice of assigning kids problem sets of math and grammar as soon as it the concepts could be pounded into their little heads; afterschool tutoring, for as much as could be handled, piano lessons down the throat and violin lessons if you can manage.

It's a method of developing mental discipline, you might say, and I've come across people who were *horrified* at the concept, who've said that it is *detrimental* to the kids (that it *hurts* the kids) and that they've never met a happy asian family.

And yet *I'm* still probably gonna do the same for my kids, because *I* believe that the early training has helped my mind develop and that *I* believe that it does no harm.


I'm much in the camp of those who say, yes, it does very much harm. [NB: I'm discussing this here, not to be poking you with a pointy stick, but because you seem to enjoy the "reasoned discourse from opposing points of view" as evidenced by item the third]

I believe it would be far more fair to say the intense drill-and-performance routine for children is not at all harmful to some, only a little harmful to the vast majority of children, and vastly unfair and destructive to a small subset of the population.

Some kids are just born sensitive, artistic types. My eldest is that way. (okay, treading over into her personal life here, which is one of my no-no's but...in a just and worthy cause, and maybe saving *your* hypothetical someday child from the pain of a mum who doesn't understand.) EK is the sort of kid who was born empathic. She has only recently managed to play competitive games (she turned 10 on Monday) without crying...WHEN SHE WOULD WIN. She stopped crying over losing when she was 3, developmentally appropriate and all that. She cried for winning because she could feel the other person's disappointment so intensely. EK is chewed up alive in pieces by a traditional classroom, and tends to focus far too strongly on the things she is interested in. Giving her a drilling regimen would be tantamount to teaching her how to focus all of her Obsessive and Compulsive tendencies on academics. This would result, if she managed to survive it, in an adult who associated the joy of learning and education with her own worst aspects of mental health.

If she survived it. ANd here's why I'm airing her inner soul, without her permission, on the internet.

EK has friends. SOme of her friends, as one might imagine living in the bay area, are asian, both racially and culturally. One of these friends we've known since the girls were just babies. This friend just turned 11. Only child, apple of her parents eye, no expense spared in her private-school education, piano, violin, tae kwan do, extra drills every night, tutoring, top of her class, every year since kindergarten (and how fucked is that? class rankings announced in Kindergarten!!). She's the golden child. the one who will grow up to be the CEO, the President, the frickin' power behind the throne someday.

This friend just attempted suicide. At just-shy of 11. (Messily, and rather inexpertly, thank any deity who is listening. amen.) Because she was afraid to face her parents. Because death seemed like a better alternative than telling them she wanted to stop the after-school tutoring, so she could see some of her friends more often.

Some kids are harmed by a culture that tells them that focus and academic achievement on paper is the be-all and end-all of life. The valedictorain of my high school class committed suicide, rather than tell her parents she'd flunked a class, that first quarter off at Columbia.

Certainly, many many kids come through those sorts of trials no where near as damaged by the experience. But some do. It is the duty of every parent to look, long and hard, at their preconceptions of how to raise children, and see how well that model fits this particular child.
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 07:00 am (UTC)
Which brings me back to Gay Marriage. Only what? 10 % of humanity is gay, more or less? Only those who are gay, (or the minor children of gay couples I suppose) are truly, intimately affected by the Gay Marriage Ban. Many others in society are affected obliquely, in their friends and relatives being unable to enjoy full legal protection that marriage provides. And a few are completely unaffected, since they know no one personally, who is denied the rights of marriage. A bit of societal loss, perhaps.

But I think your analogy is a good one. Don't ban the practice of the drilling and focusing young minds, in the interests of education. But also, don't apply a single standard wily-nily (willy-nilly?), to everyone.

Because sometimes the thing that has 4 hooves like a horse, two ears like a horse, long legs like a horse, swishy tail like a horse, and gallops in herds across the plains?

Is a Zebra.

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 07:03 am (UTC)
Pardon me while I make a few incoherent sounds similar to "Holy shit!" and thank you profusely for posting this stuff about Rick Perry. Veddy interestink, and I'd not heard anything about it before (I should pay more attention to state politics).

And... yeah, you don't know me, I just wandered in via [livejournal.com profile] rosenho's friends page. *g*
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 08:58 am (UTC)
Am much amused by a certain govenor of TX and even more amused by the Shrub's Scott comparisons. I giggle at Buzzflash's sing-song versions. Bush Meets Canadian PM [aka: the Other Scott]: the Musical!

I also have to say I agree with you about [livejournal.com profile] wayfairer's post. While I agree with the point of view expressed, I was a little iffy with the way she expressed it. It was so angry it made me a little angry but, unfortunately, not at the intended victim. I was kind of ready to go in with fist raised and see who came out with fewer bruises [metaphorically speaking, of course] because the writing kept that kind of tone. But, see, I agree with her so that would have been silly.

I'm not one with the tact either, though. >.>;;

It's also possible that, had I read the original post, I would have been on the same level with [livejournal.com profile] wayfairer's outrage but, not having seen it, I can't be sure.

Also, just thought I'd note that your posts brighten my dingy-est days. . .even though I don't always agree with you. ^_-
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 09:21 am (UTC)
I find it very interesting that the ultimate source for the "Truth!" about Perry seems to be BuzzFlash, which claims that its information comes from "CREDIBLE sources." Credible unidentified sources.

Personally, I think it's all inflammatory reactionary bunk. And I will freely admit that a large part of my opinion is based on the fact that not even the independent media in Austin has said peep about this supposed huge scandal that will rock the Texas government.

If he hasn't been served with papers yet, then the only people who'd know about it are Mrs. Perry and her lawyers. And I find it very hard to believe that if there was a leak from "credible inside sources" that they wouldn't bother to tell the press. Convenient, that.
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 09:56 am (UTC)
The other guy, supposedly?
Apparently it's the Secretary of State.


Oh Holy God. That's brilliant. I'm torn between indignation at his hypochrisy (and low-down, slimy, adulterous cheating) and a certain horrified delight.

If this turns out to be true and the story breaks and hits the mass media, then my two favourite potical scandals ever (the Alexander Hamilton/Aaron Burr duel in 1804 and Congressman Preston Brooks clubbing Senator Charles Sumner over the head with his cane on the Senate floor in 1856) have just been joined by a third.

I can't wait for this to hit CNN.

As for Wayfarer's rant--For the most part, I'm right up there next to her cheering her on. While I sympathise with people who truly believe that gay marriage is against God, stating so while writing and reading slash is bloody hypocritical.

One pet peeve, though: The phrase "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" appears nowhere in the U.S. Constitution. It's from The Declaration of Independence. Therefore, it's not a Constitutional right.

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Thursday, February 19th, 2004 10:16 am (UTC)
Hmm... does that mean you're one of the people I friended after a giant argu... I mean discussion? Blast. I totally don't remember. (...which probably shows the actual effect of other people's arguments on my thick skull.)

*ambles off*
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 03:18 pm (UTC)
Feeling any better? I had a cold last week but luckily it wasn't too bad. Hope you feel better soon. ((((huggles)))
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 03:18 pm (UTC)
*amused by the Texas governor scandal* To convince me, they'd have to show evidence that he actually had gay sex rather than that his wife was accusing it, as I can see an angry wife doing that to mess with her husband's career on the way out. There's hardly a more politically destructive insinuation you could make against someone like that.
Thursday, February 19th, 2004 11:45 pm (UTC)
Re: the slasher who is against gay marriage (or something like that; I didn't really follow that kerfuffle...)

I agree with [livejournal.com profile] thebratqueen's stance on this (http://www.livejournal.com/users/thebratqueen/421872.html).

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