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You know, in reference to the Blade Runner discussion...I wonder how many people separate 'like' and 'love' the way I do, or perhaps if everybody just mixes it all up which confuses me a bit 'cause they're not the same.
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =critical analytical admiration
Love = bittersweetobsession adoration
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =
Love = bittersweet
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post