Odd; boys always were, and are, far more vicious to me than girls ever were. I passed under the social radar for girls, so I wasn't any threat or worth harassing; boys love to pick on people just because they can. Passing gauntlets to get to class and such. Loads of fun.
But people in general are pretty horrible, so I'm not surprised at the stories, either.
Also, dear, you're pretty. It's probably not the high school's doing. People are nice to you if you're pretty; that goes right under "gravity makes things fall down." ;)
::DIES:: okay, dude, I only got contact lenses and makeup when I headed into college. I was flatter then than I was now, breaking out like whoa, hair either an unmanageable oil slick or dry and snarly, and my teeth were in a horrible overbitten mess (when they first put in the wires, the wire went in zigzags). I went to one of those magnet HS, but even there I was one of those loners who sat alone in the library for lunch; my first friend there was also a loner who sat in the library.
I was a cute kid, but I wasn't girly. Therefore: "omg ur gey!"
I guess it's a YMMV situation whether the girls or guys hit you hardest; there were a few asshole boys who were annoying, but the girls were like this flock of bonepicking piranha-starling things. Ngh.
Mind, that was elementary school. In high school I decided I wasn't going to take this crap anymore, and evilly made sure that anyone who hassled me did so in view of a teacher who WOULD do something.
Just picking on your typo, Perma. But yeah, this makes me go over the god-why-couldn't-I-have-gotten-my-act-together-then problem.
Not that I'm totally with-it now, lookswise. You can't really do much of anything when you even don't fill an A *pushup* bra. >_>;; And I don't even have the excuse of being Asian and it "supposed" to be like that! >_<
Anyways, thanks for linking the thread. It's making me grateful for my HS, bad as it was in its ways, overall--I lucked out BIGTIME. ::praises your and my HSs equally::
The first half (sheer quantity) makes me think too, but this bit about location is a true Permaism. I'd've never thought to organize people that way. maybe certain areas are really bad? I wonder what the people on ferret's journal would say.
::shrug:: Totally OT question/confirmation of suspicions: With so. freaking. many. of us following you, I'm safe in assuming that if I post anything I want you to see, I would have to explicitly point it out to you; in other words, that you don't follow my journal. Correct?
esp lately, yeah. midterms and papers and transferring of colleges/majors and the boy and mind gone up in warg.
the links I've been posting are actually a couple months old. ::wry grin:: but if you comment, I tend to remember and go read the journals if I don't remember your latest post...speaking of which...
::grinz:: Well that's fortunate, because my most recent post is the one i was going to ask you to go visit, at any rate. I want the Perma treatment! ::is bricked:: XD
Same here. As a girl, I was always surprised that the boys felt it was ok to be nasty and hurtful to me. Isn't there a code about that? I think most girls igrnored me or at least waited until I wasn't around to be mean. But every experience that stands out in my memories as a bad high school experience was because of boys (and not in the 'because a boy dumped me' way, more like in the 'because a boy smashed my head into a locker or tore my art project' way.)
There is a code, but unattractive women/girls don't count as women/girls to many people, I've discovered. ("All women are beautiful!", the flipside of which is... well, y'know.)
More likely and to the point, the kids who are brought up with chivalry/manners probably aren't the same louts who are shoving people around.
Also, dear, you're pretty. It's probably not the high school's doing. People are nice to you if you're pretty; that goes right under "gravity makes things fall down.' Oh, if only that were true. One of my HS friends who got breasts early was treated about the worst of all of us by the boys. She was and is very pretty. (I have a picture if you want to email me; PROOF!)
O_o I thought guys (well, straight ones) generally liked breasts. Isn't that the sort of thing people usually file under "they're just jealous"? Still sucks, of course...
Odd; boys always were, and are, far more vicious to me than girls ever were.
I had the same experience. And yeah, the "passing under girls' social radar" was probably a factor in my case, too. Even the girls who tried, normally didn't manage to hurt me as much as the boys, maybe because it was easier for me to see through them.
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But people in general are pretty horrible, so I'm not surprised at the stories, either.
Also, dear, you're pretty. It's probably not the high school's doing. People are nice to you if you're pretty; that goes right under "gravity makes things fall down." ;)
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::DIES:: okay, dude, I only got contact lenses and makeup when I headed into college. I was flatter then than I was now, breaking out like whoa, hair either an unmanageable oil slick or dry and snarly, and my teeth were in a horrible overbitten mess (when they first put in the wires, the wire went in zigzags). I went to one of those magnet HS, but even there I was one of those loners who sat alone in the library for lunch; my first friend there was also a loner who sat in the library.
trust me, it wasn't the 'pretty' factor.
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I was a cute kid, but I wasn't girly. Therefore: "omg ur gey!"
I guess it's a YMMV situation whether the girls or guys hit you hardest; there were a few asshole boys who were annoying, but the girls were like this flock of bonepicking piranha-starling things. Ngh.
Mind, that was elementary school. In high school I decided I wasn't going to take this crap anymore, and evilly made sure that anyone who hassled me did so in view of a teacher who WOULD do something.
Mwa ha ahem.
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...? XD
Just picking on your typo, Perma. But yeah, this makes me go over the god-why-couldn't-I-have-gotten-my-act-together-then problem.
Not that I'm totally with-it now, lookswise. You can't really do much of anything when you even don't fill an A *pushup* bra. >_>;; And I don't even have the excuse of being Asian and it "supposed" to be like that! >_<
Anyways, thanks for linking the thread. It's making me grateful for my HS, bad as it was in its ways, overall--I lucked out BIGTIME. ::praises your and my HSs equally::
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It makes me wonder tho, how many people *do* end up with a decent HS experience (alls considered) and, perhaps, where they are geographically...
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The first half (sheer quantity) makes me think too, but this bit about location is a true Permaism. I'd've never thought to organize people that way. maybe certain areas are really bad? I wonder what the people on ferret's journal would say.
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::giggles and grins and bows::
I went ahead and commented regarding that, so I guess we'll see if there's any response.
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the links I've been posting are actually a couple months old. ::wry grin:: but if you comment, I tend to remember and go read the journals if I don't remember your latest post...speaking of which...
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More likely and to the point, the kids who are brought up with chivalry/manners probably aren't the same louts who are shoving people around.
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Oh, if only that were true. One of my HS friends who got breasts early was treated about the worst of all of us by the boys. She was and is very pretty. (I have a picture if you want to email me; PROOF!)
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I had the same experience. And yeah, the "passing under girls' social radar" was probably a factor in my case, too. Even the girls who tried, normally didn't manage to hurt me as much as the boys, maybe because it was easier for me to see through them.
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::hugs::