Le Sigh.

[permetaform]

Life has gone insane and I find myself both losing too much sleep trying to catch up and not being involved enough while trying to catch up 'cause I'm spreading myself too thin. God, you'd think I'd learn by now about spreading myself too thin.

Prepare the front and the rear has few.
Prepare the left and the right has few.
Everywhere prepared, everywhere few.
~ Sun Tzu

I swear, I need to paste that somewhere prominent. I would on my head, but then I can't read it.

You'd think I'd learn. ::headdesks::

On that note, I'm clipping my friendslist. 750 is far too insane, and I can read fast but I still have a limit and time is short and I'm not giving people the attention they deserve and I *want* to be friends with everyone who friends me back but...fuck.

Because of the frienditto scare, I've realized that I *want* this journal to be a fan journal. I want it most of all to be where I can interact with fans of whatever fandom I'm in. But that doesn't work well on the internet, I don't think I (personally) can handle putting RL and fandom in one open forum.

One has to go, and I chose to keep fandom.

I'm not sure what that says about me. Or if it says anything. People keep on complaining about others who compartementalize too much, but I think that if I *don't* compartementalize I'll just bleed right through. Perhaps, if on some level, you don't compartementalize, you'll fall apart, mind into heart into gut into feces. It becomes one big undifferentiated mass...but I dunno if that argument is even applicable here.

I know I've moved from the fandoms I've originally met most of you; don't feel bad if you de-friend me, there's no bad feelings from me if you do.

Actually, if you're anything like me, the whole concept of de-friending leaves me queasy. Guilt-complex.

Mother-dear trained me well.

Comments

[nightengale.livejournal.com]

Perma, your journal is not f-only. Which means that if we get defriended, we can still keep you as OUR friend, and read your journal. 'Cause you know, we don't all have 750 friends to keep track of. You, on the other hand, don't need to be reading 750 journals. This is why the term "friends" list sucks. It's not a list of who is and is not your friends; it's a list of whose JOURNALS you choose to read. Cutting that list (drastically, I should hope), says nothing about what you think of the owners of said journals.

*hugs* Do it, and go ALL OUT when you do. You'll feel much less pressured. And you can always *re*friend later. So my advice is to cut everyone who isn't essential. Leave us to our own devices and let yourself mentally rest and slow down for a month or so. Then start adding back, slowly, and sparingly. Again: I *promise* you, we all understand. *hugs*

[permetaform]

ohhh ::glomp:: you rock. and yeah I went from 750 to 350...drastic enough?? ;D

And you're right...it is kinda a load off. ::hugs back::

[nightengale.livejournal.com]

I went from 750 to 350...drastic enough??

Maybe. If I were in your position, I'd cut everyone who it didn't hurt me to do so. But then again, I don't have a guilt-complex to fight. ^_~

[permetaform]

If I were in your position, I'd cut everyone who it didn't hurt me to do so.

o.0 but I did just that...

[nightengale.livejournal.com]

Heh, then good, that *is* drastic enough then. I was just making sure, 'cause 350 seemed like a big number to me. Apparently it's as small as you're willing to make it: in that case, *hugs* Good job.