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You know, in reference to the Blade Runner discussion...I wonder how many people separate 'like' and 'love' the way I do, or perhaps if everybody just mixes it all up which confuses me a bit 'cause they're not the same.
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =critical analytical admiration
Love = bittersweetobsession adoration
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =
Love = bittersweet
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post
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I think its all experiential. Meaning, I think value is ascribed to something (a film, or the definition of 'love' or 'like') as it is observed in SpaceTime rather than to the thing itself.
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
YOU are the difference.
To be Zen about it (and in Minekura-sensei's words actually, although not verbatim), the you of today is not the you of yesterday. And if everything is seen BY you, then the way you see changes with the way you change. In 5 years, considering that you won't be exactly the same person as you are now, do you really think that you'll think about 'love' and 'like' and Ridley Scott vs Luc Besson films in the same way as you do right now? I guarentee not (although you may still be confused about how to describe some of them!), but right now, for the you that you currently are, 5th Element speaks to you where Blade Runner doesn't, and 'love' seems to be stronger than 'like'.
You're only befuddled because you're trying to put a static value to something that is constantly changing and shifting ie the Today that you are standing in. Life is a temporal media. You should be down with that, considering your passion for video.
//end of rant
;)
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Yes, I am the difference; but where does this differnece lie? what is it the rule of it? why is, by percieving something, the shine is lost?
I don't believe in things losing shine by understanding them, by disecting them, by being scientific about them; it's in my nature, it's in my religion.
And I may not be the same person, but I want to know where I come from and learn from that, I want to know where I currently am, and learn from that, and granted the combination of these two wants will never give me a blueprint to the future at least I approach the future from a mental place that, if not exactly balanced, I know a bit more how to balance it against the essential imbalance of the world around me.
I don't expect my loves and likes to stay constant, but I like knowing what they are and where they come from. I'm constantly befuddled and I constantly put myself in a mental space of befuddlement, shifting the bar so to speak, so that I'm constantly wondering and pushing myself.
Yes, life is a temporal media, and I am down with that. =) It's been my philosophy since what seems like forever, but only consciously registered sometime late HS, and is part of why I'm so facinated by the themes of transience and perception (perception/truth as a constantly shifting medium) and I suspect is why I'm so grabbed-by-the-balls by Saiyuki.