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You know, in reference to the Blade Runner discussion...I wonder how many people separate 'like' and 'love' the way I do, or perhaps if everybody just mixes it all up which confuses me a bit 'cause they're not the same.
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =critical analytical admiration
Love = bittersweetobsession adoration
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post
Perhaps it's like the "x loves y, but x is not IN LOVE with y" thing I see occasionally in fic?
It's similar to how I like Blade Runner, but am in love with The 5th Element, I think...but what's the difference?
Is it just a matter of degree? "I like you" v. "I love you"?
Doesn't feel quite right.
I almost want to say that it's a mental love instead of an emotional love, but I'm not sure if that's quite the right analogy.
Perhaps:
Like =
Love = bittersweet
[edit] 2.18.5
For whereas 'like' is appreciation, 'love' includes all the messyness, where flaws aren't 'bad', and there's faults but you're in helpless adoration anyways.
Or perhaps I'm still missing the point. ::is befuddled:: This is not helped by the fact that some people I'm attracted to because I want to *be* them. (for instance, The Boy in HS that was way too similar to The Mom, in hindsight, but who I think I always labled as 'Someone Worthy Of Approval')
(...also, this brings up probably bad analogies to the Black Widow thing...ie. absorbing one's talents by ::cough:: absorbing one's ...talents)
::stares in befuddlement at post:: argh. I dunno. I'm still feeling this subject out, would like (and love ;D) input on this.
[edit 2.18.5]
further distinctions:
'in love' = which by my definition starts out in pure passion and mellows out into the bittersweet attachment.
'love' = ie. OMG LOVE!, it's that flare of pure joy that may be empty very quickly. 'like' = for me, lasts about as long as 'in love', but it's...shaded less ardently. I'm not as compelled to understand the messy sides when I like something than with things that I love.
ps. there's tons of neat saiyuki 58 links in the comments to this post
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oh btw, got idea for that verse you were having trouble with:
She stopped playing someone else's role - became something other than that image of a fairy princess and small-town homecoming queen. She took on a proactive role at the Talon (guided by Lex), and slowly realized that Clark was not going to work out and would ultimately leave her (a realization she came to only after confiding in Lex throughout S3).
So I sold it if I had it
proactive role at Talon
stacked it in the backyard
outside shot of Talon, her looking up (as if at the Talon) and smiling
they took what they needed when they go
Clark smiling at her and leaving, her quavering face
just leave me alone
her pushing Lex away, Lex still smiling at her and offering, her looking back at Lex.
ie. make that last line ironic and false. =D prove the line wrong